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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL hasn’t seen our family since Thanksgiving. She was supposed to visit earlier on the pandemic but her flight was cancelled. Today she woke up crying because she misses our DS and called and told my DH she wants to fly down to visit. He told her to go ahead without consulting me. We have talked about this before and I’ve told him I would prefer for her to drive (she’s 9 hours away and has family at the midpoint so she could stay with them or do a hotel) because everything I’ve read says that flying is a greater risk than driving and I’m pregnant and our DS has asthma, and we have a small condo so she sleeps in the living room and is basically on top of us when she comes. He insists that it’s a short flight and we have to take some risks and I’m not being reasonable.[b] [u]I know my MIL won’t drive[/u] [/b]because she has serious anxiety and hardly ever drives out of her own county but I asked him to at least communicate to her that flying seems to be riskier than driving and that she needs to take real precautions and[u] [b]to tell her that we would prefer for her to drive.[/b][/u] He won’t do it and now says it’s my fault if she won’t visit and that I’m keeping her away from our DS so I can’t complain that we don’t have any help (which isn’t true as she is not able to capably watch DS alone and requires constant hand holding).

So please - honest answers - am I being unreasonable? I am not saying she can’t come, and I think making a preference known is not the same thing as forbidding her from coming...[/quote]

Yes, this part is unreasonable. If you know her anxiety is so high that it's not even on the table, then bringing it up again as the preferred options is unreasonable.

I don't think anyone should be faulted for not agreeing to have visitors at this time, even family. [/quote]

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