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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here are the hard truths no one wants to say - so I will:

1. Stop paying to hold your daycare slot. It's going to be a really, really long time before daycare feels safe and normal again. If you decide to go back before it is, there probably won't be a waitlist. And many of these centers will eventually close regardless of you continuing to pay, so all that money could be for nothing. Let it go. Stop feeling guilty. Free up the $ for a safer alternative.

2. Daycare is not safe right now. Or at least what we know at the moment tells us it's not safe. It's multiplying your exposure and a risk to you and anyone you then come in contact with. And if we're being really honest with ourselves, it's always been a risky environment from a disease perspective. Low-paid workers with limited sick time, dosing kids with Tylenol to hide fevers...

3. Daycare is the only option for pool of people who really, truly cannot afford private care. But most of DCUM can afford a nanny, nanny share or other smaller childcare setting. It's just that we've all decided we would rather have vacations, enrichment classes, meals out, house cleaners and other supports. No problem with that, I was one of them. But now that you can't have any of those things, yes, you probably can afford to pay more for safer childcare for this limited period of time.

4. Your work doesn't care that you are having a hard time. They should care because it is 100% not your fault that a pandemic left you without childcare while also expected to perform at full capacity at your job. It's unfair. But they don't care. In this crap economy you are replaceable and your childless coworker is a lot more useful to them right now.[/quote]

It is illegal for workers to "dose kids" with Tylenol to hide fevers.  Licensed daycares have pretty strict rules about this and will kick out parents who don't follow the illness policy.[/quote]

Workers certainly don’t dose kids with Tylenol on the down low - but you really think parents don’t give a dose of Tylenol and send their kids off in the mornings, knowing they’ll get a call when it wears off in 4 hours but they need to get to work and finish some items first? Because this is, unfortunately, incredibly standard. Signed, a pediatrician who hears all too often “so she started with a fever around midnight... I gave some Motrin, she slept okay, then 6am she was fussy so I gave her some more... sent her to daycare (slightly guilty look now) because you know, the fever seemed gone and I thought she was probably just teething.... but then daycare called around 11 to say she was vomiting and had a fever of 102, so we just want her ears checked and stuff”[/quote]

Teacher here. This is how I got the flu and strep last year, and how I fully expect to get COVID. You can see it in their eyes and their behavior when they have a masked fever, and when I have a hunch, they almost always have a fever again by lunch time and when I call, I get the “oh, dad is home with the flu today, so he’ll be in to pickup soon” type of response. Once, I even found that the parent had emailed me after dropoff to say that they were both home with fevers, so if the kid gets a fever, please call grandma. No one’s hours of productivity are worth more than the health of their child’s classmates and teachers, and in the case of flu or COVID, behavior like this can cost lives. [/quote]

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