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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here.  I'm actually up to my eyeballs in obligations to get together with friends, family, etc, but don't have enough time or energy, and esp. not for new friends.

Reasons why this is the case:

I've lived here for over 15 years, since roughly after college
Family and friends from college, old jobs, are here
Now we have new friends from the kids school and they have b-day parties, get togethers, etc.
We want some family time together on the weekends, just the 4 of us, after not getting much time together all week
Even though I'm pretty social on the surface, I consider myself an introvert, and I get tired from talking to people sometimes, esp. after a full day or week at work.
DH is definitely an introvert too, and really values his own alone time and family time on the weekend.

Consequently we say no to alot, and I feel like a biyatch.  Don't get me wrong, I like new people, I'm a friendly person, and it's nothing personal, but i work fulltime as does DH, we play with our preschool aged kids, and after that 90% of the time I just want to rest after a full day.   There are only 4-5 weekends a month and I don't want to go out more than 2-3 nights a week, (say 1 weekend night and 1 weeknight solo while the DH watches the kids).  I also don't like being overscheduled, which I kinda think we are and the kids aren't even in elementary school yet or taking any classes.

In short, please don't take it personally--it's me, not you.[/quote]

OP here--it's hard to be the newbie.  We've only been here for a few years and moved here not having any friends or family in the area.  Added to this is that DH works long hours so I am alone a lot in the evenings and on weekends.  It's lonely.  I'd love to make a few more friends in the area to get together with.  I have a lot of interests and love doing activities, it's just that I always end up doing them alone.  I did not think making friends here would be so hard.  I wish my schedule was like yours above!  I wish we felt like we had some sense of community here or any semblance of a social life!  It's also hard to be completely alone on holidays too, since we have no family in the area.  [/quote]

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