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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would be ok doing it now.

But will wait until the June 10th order is lifted[/quote]

+1. Would do an outdoor playdate now if I knew any friends that also wanted to. [/quote]

We’ve been doing outdoor play dates with our next door neighbors. Everyone is working from home with kids at home + wearing masks to the grocery store. I don’t post about it on Facebook or anything stupid because I don’t want comments. But we are complying with the order to limit gatherings to under 10 people and I figure it’s better to do a (relatively) low risk get together to keep our social distancing endurance up rather than strict isolation and burning out. Sort of like how people always fall off of strict diets.

Also, the funny thing is friends of mine who have been really judgy (over social media or text chains) about play dates or neighbor get togethers are the ones having their local parents/in-laws over to help with the kids. Neither we, nor our next door neighbors, have any family help. So occasionally letting our kids run around together outside basically is our “help” to get a break from our really young kids.

I think everyone should be doing the best they can to comply with doing what they need to survive and not judging others unless it’s something blatantly stupid like throwing a house party.[/quote]

This seems really reasonable to me. I thought I had a similar agreement with a nearby family, but then one day the parent starts telling me they were at someone else's house earlier that morning, and oh on the way home they stopped to get coffee and browse target, so then I was like, OH we can't hang out near you anymore, bye. But if both families have the same risk tolerance and trust each other, I agree with something low risk to keep this sustainable.[/quote]

We were about to do something similar with another family who claimed they were fully isolating and then realized that our definitions of that were quite different. [/quote]

+++ I don't know that other families are self-isolating to the degree our family is. If another family was, I would undoubtedly join pods together. But no one we know is being as careful as we are; I know in part because we're having to be that careful because of our high-risk status.

But this is also why friends of mine are like, "I don't know how I got COVID, I've been quarantined..."[/quote]

THIS. I don't trust other people. Sorry I just don't because the definitions of "oh we've just been home" vary widely. Some people mean -- we literally do not go anywhere except once in 3 weeks one adult goes to the store masked up because we can't get instacart spots; the rest of the time the kids are glued to the screens or fighting with each other but we aren't going out no matter how much they complain. And many others mean -- oh we go grocery shopping but my store didn't have my preferred cut of prime rib so then I went to grocery store #2. Then we were working on our yard and decided mulch would look nice so we went to Home Depot and since we were already there, we decided to browse inside to get ideas for our bathroom reno. And then we picked up a pizza and the kids whined for ice cream so we had to stop and get them stuff and look at that so-and-so from their 3rd grade class was there with his parents so we let the kids run around a bit while the parents chatted. Some people really think this IS staying home because all of their outings involve food but reality is there are just a LOT more outings than your family may be doing.[/quote]

Everyone has different comfort levels.

I have one friend who seems ultra strict about kids not leaving the house. Her kids are on screens all day. My friend shops often or what I consider often. I know she goes to target, Costco, wegmans, Trader Joe’s, Walmart, etc. seems like she goes a few times per week. She absolutely will not get take out.

We only get instacart deliveries. We have gotten curbside a few times. I have not been to any stores in 2 months thanks to amazon and instacart. We go on nature walks often, a few times per week in the early morning.

I personally think our walks are less risk than my friend’s frequent shopping trips. I’m sure my friend thinks we are out and about.

My friend lives in a townhouse community and has a dog so she takes walks and passes by neighbors probably. We live in a spread out neighborhood. Our kids bike often and there are no kids on our street.

At this point, I don’t care how cautious or not cautious you have been. I’m ready to socialize.[/quote]

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