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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am going to disagree with everyone who says that she needs to move in with you.  This will be hell on you if you two can't spend a few days without arguing.  I live with my elderly mom because she also has no income and it's hell.  I think you can buy her a ticket to come visit until Social Security kicks in but then she finds her own place.  There is no need to disrupt your entire life op.  She made her choices in life.  I am not saying not to help her, but moving in with you is not a solution I would consider.[/quote]

I agree.  I have a similar situation somewhere between pp and op.  Op may feel she is doing right by mom, but from what she’s described the situation will negatively affect her children.  Who really knows what mom has been up to?  Even if she’s not an alcoholic or drug addict, she’s likely to siphon off OP’s money that seems to be a shorts supply.[b]  Seems the thing to do is find an affordable senior place where mom can live in VA.  There are some in noVA that are truly affordable on SS, but she needs to be physically able to care for herself.  These places don’t have savings thresholds, and are for people who do not have savings.  They are subsidized.[/b]  Do this, and I guarantee your relationship may at least be tolerable.  You need boundaries more than ever.[/quote] Thanks pp, am leaning towards doing this. I'm in Woodbridge Va. I've been googling places but it seems that you may be familiar with  some specific 55 + communities. Are there any you can recommend? [/quote]

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