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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD - not AA but Aspie - wanted her beautiful, long wavy chestnut hair cut very short in early elem school. It was about the time kids need to start taking care of their own hair. She didn’t want to deal with the length and this was her solution to being able to take care of it herself. So off it went.

She was called a boy many times and just dealt with it (good discussion of gender assumptions and stereotypes). As an Aspie, she can’t help but stand out so having short hair when every other little girl had long hair wasn’t as much of an issue.

She has kept it short and has no issues taking care of it herself. Good for her self-esteem and feeling independent. And letting her chose her own style has been a boost too as well as good for our relationship - no more hair battles and we showed we have confidence in her (some of!) her decisions.

OP, I would counsel her to go short to start but back her on her decision.  It’s just hair. [/quote]

The name calling is normal.  My son is mistaken for a girl all the time with longer hair.  The issue is taking care of it and many kids need help taking care of their hair even as preteens and younger teens.  I would not cut OP child's hair drastically.  Maybe shorter or in a fun cut but do it slowly over a few cuts at least.  We got my son a shirt saying he's a boy, not a girl and there are lots of fun things you can do with a boy but not as easy as a girl.  [/quote]

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