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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Particularly those used to going to pre-k or k...

My 4 year old is doing suprisingly okay. She seems to get what’s going on and that she can’t see her friends because of the germs. From time to time though I think reality hits her. The first time she realized her beloved music class would be by Zoom she broke down. Whenever she asks to do something and the takes a beat and then says “oh we can’t cause of the germs.” It’s breaking my heart.

Like everyone else I want things to get back to normal soon... but mostly so I don’t have to crush my kid anymore :(. I’m not religious but I’m praying for a vaccine ASAP so all of this can end.[/quote]

Op, your kid is not “crushed.”  If she behaves as such, it’s because she’s picking up on your neurosis

There will not be a vaccine before we go back to normal.

She won’t even remember this in 5 years.  [/quote]

Go look up trauma response for children who’ve experienced natural disasters... she may not remember, but our children will almost certainly be affected by this. There will be significant variation, but we’re foing to have a generation of children who have even more trauma than before.[/quote]

Missing music class is not a natural disaster, pp, not is it a trauma, unless op turns it into one. It’s a first world problem if ever there was one. And no, a 4 year old absolutely will not be affected by this. Sorry. [/quote]

I don’t know who needs to hear this— obviously pp — but it’s okay to experience feelings of sadness and acknowledge your emotions, even if they don’t meet your clinical definition of “trauma.” Even if they’re first world problems. 
Developing Emotional intelligence starts at birth and I feel sorry for your children if you’re denying them the opportunity to feel sad or lost about their entire world turning upside down because of a disease that’s killing thousands (including possibly their own family or friends) just because it’s not “traumatic.” [/quote]

And it’s parent’s responsibility to teach kids to handle such crises as music class being cancelled for a few weeks, without dissolving into tears on a daily basis. This is how pampered snowflakes are born. What about a little empathy for the kids music teacher or studio, who may be permanently out of work? Everything is not me-me-me and my problems, and yes, that skill has to be taught. I feel sorry for your kids if you encourage all this navel gazing and marinating in how we “feel” all day.  [/quote]

Hey PP you're such a snowflake. What compels you to criticize some random parents for caring about the feelings of their own children? You're obviously feeling a lot of anger and frustration right now. You should try to address that before lashing out at others. [/quote]

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