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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most men would be happily drained by their wife, their secretary AND their cleaning lady.[/quote]  Agree. but keep reading.
[quote=Anonymous]Regular draining doesn't kill the urge for novelty or variety.  [/quote]Agree . but keep reading.
[quote=Anonymous]There is no such thing as an affair-proof marriage.  [/quote] WRONG. See next question.
[quote=Anonymous]Most men, when offered a new body and freedom from consequences, will take it [/quote]Only a woman could write that. Very few men (let alone married men) are EVER offered this. So let's get past that 1% outlier I mentioned before. Cheating husbands are NEVER pursued by a woman who wants to screw him. Women simply do not pursue men for sex. Cheating men are actively pursuing women to cheat with. And this takes work. For most men, [b]significant[/b] work.

To the man who's not getting drained at home, this is a no brainer: he will absolutely do this work, guarantee, take it to the bank. To the man who just got laid yesterday at home..... there is no motivation to jump through all the ridiculous hoops required for a married man to cheat.
[quote=Anonymous]Many marriages with affairs also last a long time, contrary to what DCUM would lead you to believe. [/quote] Yes of course. How do you think all those "sexless" marriages last (spoiler alert: they are not really sexless).[/quote]

[b]The fact that you wrote it leads me to believe you have no idea how abundant sex offerings can be for a moderately attractive, chatty man with a pleasing personality. [/b] I travel for work every couple of months and I see men and women, both away from their families, in circumstances where contact is easy and things can be had easily because both parties are looking to get laid. It helps if that man has an attractive job with some clout but even that isn't necessary. I do want to be kind to you but you should know that when a woman decides she wants to sleep with you, she makes it very, very easy for you.  If it takes significant work for you to sleep with a woman, you should know she doesn't really want to sleep with you.  No, women do not pursue men for sex, but we are very good at sending signals that we are there for the asking. And many, many happily married men jump at these signals if circumstances arise where consequences are unlikely.[/quote]

Yes, thanks and plus 1.  I mean, really, how could this dude be this dense.  I am tall, maybe a 7/10 attractive, slightly overweight, dress well, and chatty and I promise you I have been propositioned flat out at least a half dozen times over the year.  Like, not subtle: "so does this drink end in my hotel room?" invitation from a hotel bar while I am traveling.

And i have turned down almost all of them.  I took up one when I was in a low point in my marriage.  So sure, there is some correlation between men who cheat and men who are satisfied but there is also a lot with just having opportunities and there are plenty of them.[/quote]

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