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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a dear friend who when in her early 30’s married a man in his late 40’s. By his mid-60’s he looked and acted very old and in his early 70’s he was physically in very poor shape and when he passed away in his mid-70’s he was basically an invalid. She was 60 at the time and from age 50 on she was taking care of a very old man. She truly loved him but it was so sad to see her, in the prime of her life, living a very lonely life. She is a very attractive, successful and fun woman who missed out on so much. I’m sure they had 20 very good years together but is that enough? [/quote]

I think 20 good years is a lot to be deeply grateful for actually. And I am always skeptical in reading this kind of outside account.  "From age 50 on she was taking care of a very old man". To her he was likely more than just " a very old man" right? You said she loved him, that this was her husband and that ultimately, this was where their path led them. You don't know that she felt she missed out. It sounds profoundly sad yes. But also like they saw their commitment through to the end. There is a beauty in that. And people who marry older partners know the risks. She chose him anyway. We all age, we make our choices and no one knows the future. A lot of couples cannot achieve 20 very good years. I am married 20 years, me and my husband are both in our 50's, healthy, with many advantages..We take nothing for granted. And if he became ill or tragedy struck, I would hope whatever our future held, it would not take away from the Love we shared in the first part of our lives together. It would deepen it. 
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