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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have seen both sides of this

We scheduled it for a few years.  Seemed like a good compromise, she knew when it was coming and could pick a good time. I knew it as well as could look forward to it and not initiate and get rejected in between.  Problem was we started getting to the once a week and she wasn't into it.  At all. So we skipped weeks then months and now we are sexless.  And separating.

So I say this:. If you are both enthusiastic and schedule to make sure it happens, then it's great to schedule.  If you are doing it to check a box, or to placate your higher drive spouse, you are heading towards inevitable cheating or divorce  [/quote]

You simply did it wrong! If you don’t actually stick to the schedule, then it’s not really “scheduled sex” at all.

Also: of course the main purpose is to placate the higher drive spouse. That’s a feature, not a bug. You have it totally backwards: if you DON’T schedule sex, you are heading towards inevitable cheating or divorce.[/quote]

If the problem is one partner lacks sexual desire for the other or just in general, a schedule isn’t going to magically make that go away. It’s just going to put pressure on the low desired spouse.

I’m not sure why people aren’t getting this. It’s not really a solution to lack of desire and borderline sexless marriages.[/quote]

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