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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sitting at his desk 50 hours a week and only getting up to pee is ridiculous.  I have to wonder how this really looks to the people he works with.  I am going to guess that at least some of them know that he has three young kids, one of whom has severe special needs, and that they are all at home with him and his wife right now.

I am thinking of the men I have worked with who have continued to stay late at the office even when things were stressful at home (newborn twins, third baby in four years, 6 year old with a cancer diagnosis...).  No one admired them for being especially dedicated workers.  It seemed like they either a) didn’t have their priorities straight, b) were too spineless to set limits and say what they needed, or c) were shirking responsibilities at home.  None of these are particularly admirable traits in a man.  I wonder if your husband is really accomplishing what he hopes to accomplish with his dedication to his work at the expense of his home life.  [/quote]

In many industries no one cares about your family, or what trials your kids put you through. I don’t know which of my colleagues have kids, we don’t put pictures or drawings on our workspace, as we focused on the job and making the business succeed.

50 hr work weeks seems pretty tame for a breadwinner role, so Op actually has it good from the get go. [/quote]

How is this possible, do you not even engage in small talk with your coworkers while waiting for meetings to start or something?  What industry is this?  [/quote]

Engineering. We are all introverts and focused on work; that’s all we talk about.  Very few breaks b/c we are ramping up to a product launch, so easily 60 hr work weeks. Generally we work on programming or emails waiting for meetings to start, don’t you have a laptop and smartphone?[/quote]

My husband is an engineer and he knows when his co-worker's son was in the hospital.  Or when another co-worker's dog died.  Because in addition to being an engineer, and an introvert, he's also a human being.[/quote]

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