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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am so happy at home. I have a very well paying job so it is hard to give up. But I am happier, my child is happier and calmer. I am so happy to be home and wondering if anyone else is contemplating quitting after this. [/quote]

OP here - my kid is 2.5 and I feel like I’ve missed the last 2.5 years. He’s so excited to have me home it feels sad - like he shouldn’t be so excited to have his mom :([/quote]

I think that maybe you're giving him a little extra attention and he likes that. Take this lesson with you when you go back to work! Carve out more "Just Mommy" time. [/quote]

That’s a good idea but I work really long hours and a few times a week I’m home 9/10 pm. And when I’m home I’m harried. I also travel a lot for work and I feel like it’s a constant battle to keep my head above water. I have [b]a running list of things I want to do with him that never get done and I focus all my energy on play dates and classes on the weekends[/b]. But this has given both of us a time to breathe and just be with each other and not be so harried. I’ve started to think “quality time” is a cruel joke (for us). [/quote]

Maybe the bolded sentence might be some of the problem.  Honestly, he doesn't need classes or tons of playdates on the weekend.  He needs time with you to just be.. get up, make pancakes wearing pjs, then get dressed, go to the playground, come back for lunch, nap, then time to paint or playdough or be in the backyard.  On rainy days, building a fort out of sheets and pillows from the couch.. etc. If you are working, he's in childcare which means he's with other children, he's singing and dancing and painting and everything with other children - it's one long playdate.  And if he's with a nanny, then enroll him in a music class or a movement class and then have your nanny take him out and about so he's with other children.  But on the weekends, have it be just you most of the time, with perhaps one playdate every other weekend for 2 hours.

That might give you both what you need:  connection - which is what you are getting a lot of now and are finding you are missing.  [/quote]

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