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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t trust my husband to keep my kids safe if he had joint custody.  Long story and he has issues but that’s why I’m sticking this out until they’re old enough to keep themselves safe. C[/quote]

Same here. He doesn’t believe his symptoms or his diagnosis. He drives the young kids up a wall and can’t handle them at all. It’s like they all meltdown together multiple times a day if he’s the only adult around/ I’m working/ I’m sick, etc.  It’s scary and sad.[/quote]

Maybe he wouldn't want physical custody then? [/quote]

Someone in denial of his actual symptoms AND diagnosis has some real issues and will not improve. His ego is driving that and his ego will drive his battle for custody, money, retribution to protect his ego and image at all costs. He already is ruining his marriage and home life because of his ego, it will be balls to the wall for divorce time.

These are the costliest divorces to litigate: $10,000s of bills, tests, parenting classes, litigating, lying, time, hold-ups, more lies, etc. 
It takes a real toll on the other spouse. I hate to say it, but I would tell a friend or client to "let it go" and get out later when kids are older or out of the house. Meanwhile, see a good therapist that deals with forms of abuse and his diagnosis. Individual therapist will also help you decide next steps and when.  [/quote]

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