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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] FWIW, and I am waiting for the insults, I married my AP and have never looked back. I have one child with my first husband and two with my current husband. I have been married to my AP for 20 years. My ex husband and current husband even golf together. Sure, at first everyone hated everyone, but the kids come first and they just wanted all of us to love one another and get along. My ex also remarried. We all do birthdays and holidays. I host Thanksgiving for everyone every year. I love his wife and my kids stepmom. She is my go to for everything and I truly love her. We are all one big happy blended family.[/quote]

The kids probably aren’t as happy as you want to think - studies show that.  But aside from that, the fact that you “never looked back” and apparently have zero remorse for the way your current relationship started reflects really poorly on you.  At least profess to be self-aware enough to realize that it would have been better for everyone involved if you had been mature and unselfish enough to have ended your first marriage before entering another relationship with a married man and blowing up two families.[/quote]

Oh please, we have a more normal happy family than those that live the lie for the sake of the kids. My parents did that and they were always awful and miserable. They argued over everything. You could tell they hated each other but stuck it out for us. I would have preferred they split.

Second, I didn't look back because I was not going to repeat my parents mistake. I have a great relationship with my first husband. He agrees now the best thing for our kid was not to be together. My kids all feel secure to talk about their feelings. When they struggle we talk. We don 't hold things inside in our family....our big happy blended family. Third, I didn't break up anyone's marriage but my own by cheating. My then AP, now husband had no idea I was married until I told him, he was single at the time we met.

Bottom line for me....you can be upset but I don't care. I know how my kids feel. I know they are normal. My bio kids:  26 yo female, she is married and is an incredible teacher about to have her first kid and both her moms have been here for her every step of the way and we are both going to be in the room when she gives birth, never got a B in school her entire life. 17 yo male, will be going to Harvard in the Fall.  12 yo female, she is entering pre-teen life so that is always fun with a girl, but i must be doing something right because again, she has yet to bring home anything other than 6, 7, and 8s. Oh and both the teens actually like staying home on Saturday nights playing board games with their parents!

I am so sick of people telling others how awful divorce is on the kids. It's bullshit, unless the adults are petty and use the kids as pawns. [/quote]

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