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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is sad.  "You're 18.  Now get out my house" [/quote]

This is why divorce messes kids up. In intact families the parents continue to care about the kids and support them throughout college and beyond. Kids of divorce get parents who are willing to devote tens of thousands of dollars to lawyers so they can reduce child support by $100. It’s sad.

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Some intact families continue to care for the kids, others don't.  You are overgeneralizing.  Child support in most states stops at 18 or graduation of high school.  If you want continued help, then you need to deal with that parent and have a relationship with them.  An alienated parent should have to pay for college or anything past 18.  The custodial parent who alienated that parent should pay.[/quote]

+1. If you want the other parent to pay for life long things, don’t spend your life trash talking them. [/quote]

Can you explain? Because to me it sounds like you want to punish your child for decisions they didn't have complete control over as minors and maybe toxic behavior of your ex.

I would also think by doing this you are proving to child that ex who bad-mouth you was right all along.

In my view I want my child to succeed no matter what. Screw the ex. I would also look at child turning 18 and possibly living with me during college as an opportunity to make up for lost time and hopefully have a better relationship with him/ her going forward.[/quote]

+1. [/quote]

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