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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Man here. I'm now happily married, but here's how I could figure out who would be an FWB and who wouldn't:

- Pushover/eager to please. If I text you drunk at 2am while out with my friends and ask to come over and you say yes, every time.. 
- If you are open to always meeting at your/my place, and don't ask (nor suggest.. this is key) going out for dinner/some event/etc, then I'll assume you want FWB
- If when you write to me, you always make the talk sexual, and before I do.. FWB (sometimes is fine, not all the time)
- Ladder theory as a PP mentioned. If you're a 5 and I'm an 8, I'm going to assume I can get away with more, unless you push back.

(wow, I was kind of a dick when I was younger, looking back on it)

Then probably some of it is who you are attracting/attracted to. I have so many single male friends who are good guys, but not go-getters nor bad boys. Just decent guys I'd trust with my life, but nothing "exciting" to women. So what? When they manage to settle down, they make awesome fathers and husbands from what I've seen.

As for online dating and putting in your want a relationship, depending on the site, most guys are going to overlook that and assume you're still ready for a good time. After all, what woman would _not_ put in that she's looking for a relationship? I bet 90%+ of female profiles, especially among middle-aged women, have that.[/quote]

OP, in line with the above poster, let the man initiate everything for the first 8 dates.  Let the man be a man.  If he wants to date you he figures out where he
is going to take you.  Man asks you out Tuesday or at the latest Wednesday for Saturday night.  The man selects the venue, dinner etc.  You can suggest alternatives
if time or safety does not work for you.  If man asks you out Friday for SAturday it is a bootie call.  You have plans.  You tell him to ask you out Tues or Wed for the weekend.

Also, in line with what the male said above.  There are a lot of decent middle America men out there.

Don't be picky with on line dating.  I suggest unless you have safety concerns you meet a variety of men.  You let the men ask you out for subsequent dates.
Don't do the man's job of picking the date venue.

Around date 9 give or take have him over for your place for home cooked dinner.

Also, get involved in other venues outside of online dating.  Adults sports, coed softball leagues, ball room dancing, activities through religious venues.  Meet a variety 
of people.[/quote]

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