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What if she's fine living on a lower income? You can't make someone work for a lifestyle they don't want, OP. This is my husband. He has a high IQ, multiple terminal degrees, and earns very little in a little business working for NIH scientists. It's maddening that he thinks everything is peachy when all his peers have actual careers and make much more.
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Or, he could get a better paying job.  That is what my husband did.[/quote]

You don't understand. My husband is FINE with this situation. He's been refusing to budge for years. This is why it's maddening.
And he doesn't help around the house either.
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OP can make more money.  Your husband probably has a good income just not good enough for you.[/quote]

25K for the year, in the DC area. He has a PhD. His business is not working, he just doesn't want to admit it and likes the low pressure. What was that you said about a good income?
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Why did you marry him?[/quote]

This is hilarious. It’s the OP situation in reverse.

Breadwinner spouse complaining about low income spouse not working to make more money; only genders are reversed.

But no one goes ‘why did you marry her’. [/quote]

OP was happy to have a SAH spouse when his kids were younger so could invest in his career and never worry about daycare drop offs or sick days. His wife handled everything at home. The PP never had a supportive spouse like that - she specifically says he doesn’t help around the house or with the kids. She’s doing everything AND subsidizing his hobby. Now THAT is crazy.

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What are you talking about, he is GS15, so drop off, pick up, sick days pretty flexible.

It’s not like he was big law gone for weeks at a time. [/quote]

The OP specifically said that he wanted his wife to stay home when their kids were little. I am taking him at his word, just like I believe him when he says he wants her to go to work full time now.

Let’s not rewrite history.

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They had an agreement she'd stay home and now he's not honoring the agreement.[/quote]

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