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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]buying girl scout cookies is, to be fair, always somewhat awkward and weird.[/quote]
SO TRUE!  [/quote]
What? Only if you’re a weirdo! [/quote]
It is true!!! I am better at it now that I have kids but I find it awkward every time.[/quote]
Agree so much. I was a girl scout and am fine with it, since I was on the other side of those tables as a kid. My dh, on the other hand, finds it stressful.  He has to already know that he has cash in his wallet and [b]be mentally prepared [/b]to do it or he will just not buy them.  I am our GS cookie procurer!  [/quote]
What does he find so scary about the purchase?[/quote]

Not scary.  Just awkward. Is he buying from the parent?  or the girl? Or will they be switching off on the transaction midway through?  It is different every time because they are kids and are at all different levels, being scaffolded by adults.

People posted here how they scaffolded their kids through  purchases on their own.  It wasn't throwing them in to the deep end with do it or no cookies for you!  It was was going with you to the store, being in the checkout.  Helping you pay for stuff, then them paying for their own item with you right there. And so forth. Breaking it down in to steps.

That is exactly what girl scouts get for selling. The parents helping them with the steps until they can do it all on their own.

VERY different to scaffold your kid who has anxiety and then, when they are ready, telling them they need to do the thing on their own - THAT IS TOUGH LOVE. 
Skipping all those steps with anxious kids and being a jerk about it, telling them no cookies for them without working with them to that point - that is NOT tough love. It is lazy. 
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This all sounds so bizarre to me.  We were buying things at the country store at age 12.  We were working jobs (hustling for work) at age 14.  We were paid cash to 
rake leaves, cut grass and babysit at age 14.  We communicated direclty with the families that paid us to cut grass, rake leaves and babysit, i.e. our parents let
us function on our own in the community.[/quote]

Sure.  I was babysitting three kids, including an infant, by 11.  Times have changed and our kids are growing up in very different places.  My inlaws live in idaho and their kids grew up mowing lawns and shoveling snow.  Where I live, people hire bonded companies to do work like that at their houses.  It is a different world and my kids can do things that didn't exist when I was a kid (like set up personal computers, tablets, cell phones for their grandparents), they also can't do the things I did.

My fil can't order things online - it stresses him out.  My 11 yr old can do that.  [/quote]

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