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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She needs serious therapy in order to function in the world. At 16 I was working outside jobs at 20 hours a week in addition to high school.[/quote]

Kids are different these days than when we were kids.  And we can't (shouldn't) blame them because we did it to them.  [/quote]
+1 I really agree with this. At 15.5 I was working in another town, and at 16 was driving myself there.  But I was living in the "now" of the early 80s, not worried about the future--not anxious.  And it was because it was a different world.

If not therapy, you've got to practice with her.  Or have her go with a friend and practice with her friend.  Practice going to the store etc.

Ok stick with me here through the following:

I suspect she may not want to learn to drive.  OP, I have to tell you, my DD's therapy started when she was 15; soon after she declared she wasn't going to learn to drive.  My 1980's-teenage-brain was so blown out by this concept that I thought she would never fledge, and took her to therapy.  Turns out the non-driving-attitude was a non-issue because that the norm for this generation; times have changed given the advent of screens and uber.

However, it got her into therapy so that has helped tremendously on other issues.  Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is what you want.

AND--this is my real point...therapy aside, her learning to drive, and driving, has grown-up my kid so much! She drives to school, she drove her younger DC to DC's school on her way to her school, just now she drove my younger DC with her to yoga class in a nearby busy city.  She was in a minor accident; not really her fault, but now has that experience.  It's not just the driving...it's the attitude.  In our state, we don't have to learn to parallel park anymore to pass the test.  A few months ago, she learned to parallel park by herself.  She's 17 now and I feel like she will fledge.[/quote]

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