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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We get verbal thx and offers to reimburse which we decline. 
I do it for my kids, one DD is very social and loves having her friends around - enough thanks for me.[/quote]

+1  Why would you expect something in return?  Yes, I may e providing your kid with an opportunity/experience they may not have had otherwise but when I issue an invitation, whether it's to come on a trip, get ice cream or come for a sleepover, I expect nothing more than a 'thank you' - and a verbal 'thank you' is just fine. [/quote]

I think we all feel that way about ice cream or sleepovers. You can’t equate that to taking kids on a trip.  [/quote]

So the efforts a guest must make to thank you for your invitation depends on the amount of money you spend on them?  Why not just tell them what you expect in return so you aren't disappointed and the guest can then determine if the invitation is worth it?[/quote]

Once again- no. I think the vast majority pay back at some point or other sleepovers or movie outings, ice cream outings, play dates, lasertag, driving to the mall, taking out to dinner - whatever.  Taking a kid on a trip is completely different: it’s a massive responsibility, little down time, more work, more expensive, more mess, more work, more planning, etc. You can justify this all you want but the fact of the matter is a small token of appreciation is warranted in this situation. Sorry you don’t agree. You’re wrong. [/quote]

You say, 'no', but then go on to say that, unlike sleepovers/movie/ice cream, taking someone on a trip requires a small token of appreciation because of the increased resources you expend.  As demonstrated on this thread, your expectation is not universal.  That doesn't mean it's wrong or right, it's just different.  When people have differing expectations and those expectations are not clear, you're likely to be disappointed.  In your case, you are also judgmental of those who do not meet your expectation.  I'm fine with you not inviting my kid on your trips.  [/quote]

Even Ms Manners says an overnight guest brings something. But you do you. [/quote]

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