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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]To me a housewife is someone who doesn’t have kids[/b] but relies on her husband’s income and doesn’t work.[/quote]

All married women, with servants, who do not have kids, ok, got it!  So a woman gets married and instead of being a bride she is a housewife to the groom.

Umm...what if they are TTC  or are infertile? Should they be called a housewife?

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If she doesn't work?  Then yes.  To me, a wife who doesn't work and doesn't have kids would be a housewife.

A woman who doesn't work and has kids to me would be a SAHM.  That would include SAHMs with full time nannies.[/quote]

I don't think this is accurate. For me, being at home and raising my child (with nannies even) was a visceral and biological need as a mom. It may be due to the fact that personally, I got married to have a family (else I could have lived with my DH in a monogamous LTR). Or, it could be that I and my family rejoiced for both my pregnancies and these were much awaited kids. Family helped a lot and made it possible for me to me to nurse and EBF my kids for 9 months and sustain it for 3 years each time.  Once I had my first baby, there was just no way that I felt ready to leave my kids with a caregiver. Maybe it was all the hormones of pregnancy and breastfeeding, but for me there was no better calling than being a full-time mom to my kids.   And yes. it was isolating at times and hard, even with all the help, but there was never ever any doubt in me that I had to be with my babies.

I never was a good housewife and my DH does most of the cooking. I have always employed people to do the cleaning and other chores for me, so I am ok to be a wife, but not really a housewife. Also, I know WOHMs who come back from work and they do cleaning, cooking etc. and a lot more work than I do.

I think terminology has to change here and keep pace with how babies are being gestated (surrogates etc), how they are being nourished (FF, BF) and how they are being raised (Daycare, nanny, au pair, parents) etc. For me Full Time Mom works. If it offends and triggers others then that can't be helped. People get triggered for all kinds of things too, but not being triggered by real substantive issues. [/quote]

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