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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's mostly hormonal, seriously. We had our third when I was 42 and we are now in the throes of teens and tweens and it is HARD. So much harder than taking care of little kids. Of course we adore our kids but I look at our friends with one or two and think how nice that would be. :) Of course we don't have it as tough as our friends who went for their third and got preemie twins who still have a ton of health problems, so their family of two became a family of four.

TL;DR - my advice is to embrace the family you have and throw your extra love and energy into yourself![/quote]

p.s. Also, in what way is it hard now? Emotional, or logistical? We live in a major US city (not D.C.), and by the time kids hit 11-12 here, they mostly commute to school and to their extra-curricular activities on their own (by foot around age 10-11, with public transportation mostly at 12 and up). With an age spread of 8+ years bw the oldest and a potential 3rd, I feel like I'll never really have to be at 3 different places at the same time. So I will need an after-school nanny for a while, but just one more person since I don't work. [/quote]

LOL, what's hard about teens and tweens? They are emotionally and physically exhausting. They cry, shout, roll their eyes, ignore you, say hateful things. They need to be reminded to get up, eat, shower, do their homework, clean up their shit, be somewhere at a certain time, and get off the phone, get off the phone, and put they phone away. They either smell bad or spend ages in the bathroom, wasting so much water it's criminal. They leave their belongings everywhere, lose things, and freak out about everything.  They fight with each other. You have to monitor their grades, their screen time, their friends, their hygiene, their body image, their mental health, the phones and social media, their relationships, and they will fight you every step of the way. They know exactly what to say to enrage you or hurt your feelings, so you need to be tough as nails at the same time you are breaking with worry or bursting with pride. They're wonderful and crazy and energetic, but it's an extremely difficult and exhausting time.[/quote]

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