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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's mostly hormonal, seriously. We had our third when I was 42 and we are now in the throes of teens and tweens and it is HARD. So much harder than taking care of little kids. Of course we adore our kids but I look at our friends with one or two and think how nice that would be. :) Of course we don't have it as tough as our friends who went for their third and got preemie twins who still have a ton of health problems, so their family of two became a family of four.

TL;DR - my advice is to embrace the family you have and throw your extra love and energy into yourself![/quote]

OP here. Thank you for sharing your experience and advice. May I ask what are their ages? Gender? Since mine would have a large age spread between the oldest and youngest, by the time a 3rd hits the dreaded tween/teen years, the oldest will be off to college. It's one of the benefits of spacing kids out. I think that if I had 3 under 3, I would fall apart when they all go off to college in close succession. Although judging from what you wrote, and given my advanced maternal age, I might be counting the days until they are off (in my late 50s/early 60s). I suppose it depends a bit on the personality of your kids, and some luck too. We have girls, and they have always been very easy kids, since birth. My younger daughter has the sunniest, most easy-going and loving personality, and the older one is independent and very capable in all sorts of ways, so I am hoping that they won't drive me too crazy in their teens...I'll be going through menopause around the same time too, yikes. [/quote]

Isn't the downside to an age spread that you can never go on outings / activities that please everyone? I have 2 close in age and still quite young and I feel very "now or never" about the idea of a third because I want to be able to travel, go camping, have family nights, etc that are age appropriate to my kids without feeling like I'm missing out with the older ones, or the baby is "holding us back". But maybe that is a misfounded concern, IDK. I have one friend with 2 older boys followed by a girl about 6 years younger and she complains about vacations constantly because she can't keep her youngest and her boys all happy. She said her husband ends up taking the boys, she stays with the girl, and they barely all see each other. [/quote]

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