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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Isn’t it sad that it’s nearly always the daughters who do the most? In my experience, sons do very little for their parents. How can we fix this for future generations? After all, daughters are now expected to work outside the home as well as take care of family. Isn’t it time we expect the same of our sons? Just a rant. [/quote]

I am a son. I am taking care of my elderly mom. My sisters do nothing, because they live in California and Britain. But thanks for your generous assumptions about male behavior.[/quote]

It’s wonderful that you’re taking care of your Mom and you should be praised for it, but that doesn’t change the fact that you’re rare. For every man that does it, there are many women.[/quote]

He isn't rare.  My husband did a lot for his mom.[/quote]

No one is disputing there are unicorn men out there.  But you must agree, disproportionately, women are the primary elder-caregivers, as they are for children.

As a side, I keep thinking I'll make my husband be part of the solution for his parents when the time comes, but I wonder if I really will.  Will I be too overwhelmed with my kids, and my parents that I will easily overlook his parents' needs?  I hope this comment is still in my mind then.[/quote]

The comment about men is true BS.  Many, many men are the true backbone of care for the elderly.[/quote]

Where are all of these men, then? I never see them at the hospitals or nursing homes or doctors offices. It’s nearly always women with their parents. Just because you or your DH or other makes you know are good caregivers doesn’t negate the fact that most men are not.[/quote]

I know, right? And there's a huge difference between going over to cut the grass and replace the lightbulbs at your mom's house (I know lots of good sons who do this) and helping your dad to the bathroom every two hours or changing his ostomy bag (I know zero sons who do this). [/quote]

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