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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We put in about equal numbers of work hours. He does about 45 hours a week of employed work and I put in the same hours at home. Even with 3 young kids I can get pretty much everything done that needs to be done in those 45 hours. That is a lot of time to do housework, errands, shopping, planning, organizing and all other house management related things. By using my time productively there really isn't much left to do on weekends or evenings. I try and get as much of the house and car maintenance done as possible but sometimes I leave things for him because I don't know how to do them.

During evenings and weekends we both do things that can't be done during the regular workweek - like dinner dishes, bedtime routines, weekend events etc.

We both expect the other to put in a full work week from Monday to Friday - getting done as much as possible. outside of that we share it. Sometimes because a kid has been sick or something else going on, I can't get all my work done that week and then we both pick up my slack on evenings or weekends, just like his colleagues would do for him if he couldn't get everything done for whatever reason.

We both take time for ourselves when we need it. He works out in the basement in the mornings before the kids are even up and i do lots of walking with them during the day so we don't really have designated me time for the gym. It is usually more about seeing a friend or doing something else. [/quote]

Well, that’s impressive :).  [/quote]

Not really. It is just a daily routine you get into. I would say I am not someone who believes my job is to entertain the children all day. We spend all day together but they come with me on errands and they play / nap while I do stuff around the house.  We will do an activity (go the library or the park) and we read lots at home but I am probably more like a SAHP from the 70s where I don't spend all day focused on entertaining my kids. My life is vastly different from the posters here who say they stay home and do nothing but interact with their children. That would drive me insane and I don't think my kids would actually cope with 8 hours of constant attention and interaction with me, nor do I think it is healthy for them or me. We all need space and they love playing and making up games and doing all kinds of things that don't need adult leadership or involvement. They are also good at playing alone and occupying their own time. [/quote]

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