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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would write him a note and leave it on his pillow and say you all lost your tempers and part of being in a family is forgiving and forgetting, and I would tell him you are signing up for a parenting class, which I would highly recommend. I would also not drive him anywhere or do more than put meals on the table for him if this continues. If he continues to be stuck in this, ask the school guidance counselor to see him. [b]It sounds like the phone is a huge deal, and an eleven year old is too young to modulate his use, so I would think long and hard about screen addiction and closely monitor his time and activity on it[/b]. [/quote]

Normally I'd agree with you, but this kid hasn't had his phone since last week and he hasn't said one word about getting it back to either the op OR her husband.

This kid does NOT have a screen addiction (do you know the definition of addiction?).

If he were truly screen addicted, he wouldn't be able to go days and days and days (since last week) without his phone.

If he truly had a screen addiction, he wouldn't be continuing with the silent treatment. 
He if course realizes that he has the upper hand in this scenario and he truly has mom exactly where he wants her.

All of her apologizing and attempts to make up indicates to him that he's in complete control of the situation. If he truly had a screen addiction, why wouldn't he use the upper hand in the situation to his advantage, make mom happy by making up with her last week and getting his phone back?

I don't think this kid has a screen addiction at all, no way.

This all began when the teacher told him "no screen time" and then mom told him "hand it over now" then mom told him "to get in here now", etc.

He's not addicted to screens, this kid has an aversion to being controlled... he HATES being told when, where and what to do!

OP has already mentioned that her son is stubborn, which goes completely hand in hand with an aversion to being controlled.

Being stubborn is a way of telling the world "You're NOT going to tell me what do!" and if that means that he's going to cut off his nose to spite his face, well that's what he'd going to do.

Do you think that someone who's ADDICTED to screens, could willingly go without screens, just to make a point??

Please.  :roll:

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