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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s best to wait much longer if you want to give your second child the best chance at being healthy. I guess you aren’t nursing but even then, your body needs to recover just from the pregnancy.[/quote]

OP here. I am breastfeeding but I fail to see why what even matters? [/quote]

Breastfeeding is nature’s birth control. It’s very unlikely that you even have a period at 6 months.

I breast fed each of my two kids until just over a year. I was in my early 30’s and we didn’t even bother with birth control until 9 months - and that’s because I was paranoid. I got my period shortly after weaning each kid - around 13 or 14 months postpartum. [/quote]

It’s six months  not nine and must be extremely dedicated.

Ever heard of Irish twins?.....[/quote]

Yes, I always thought that happened to people who formula fed.

I didn’t get a period until after a year both pregnancies and I probably could have waited until then to start birth control. I don’t know anyone who breastfed and got pregnant the first year. It seems really rare. Considering OP WANTS to get pregnant right away, she should consider that breastfeeding will likely reduce already declining fertility.

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She should WANT to do whatever is best for the health of her current child and any future children. Which is to breastfeed and then to wait for her body to build up reserves again to create another person.

However, I'm pretty sure the OP is a troll anyway. I guess the thread wasn't getting enough attention so she had to throw in sleep training.  :roll: [/quote]

OP here. I'm not a troll. I brought up sleep trying because of the multiple comments about lack of sleep with a second child. We have not had to sleep train our baby, but we are huge proponents of sleep training and schedules. We also have family and can hire childcare. I do want to wait until a year to try because I think it's better for a healthier pregnancy.

This thread has had plenty of responses, but I think most are not real hand accounts like I expected. I haven't been able thread through all of them all.

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Hey OP. I just had my third. I have a 4, 2 and 0 year old! I still have 2-3 hours to myself at night and my husband and I have a fantastic relationship and we have a date night every other week.

The date night thing is a financial thing not a kid thing. If you're comfortable leaving your baby for a date night when they're little (and I'm a huge advocate of that!) then continuing that with two children is nothing but a financial decision.

The 2-3 hours to myself comes from keeping to a very rigorous sleep schedule and putting children on a pretty hard core schedule. We will make exceptions for special events but my kids are on a timer, they wake and sleep the same time basically everyday. And we stuck with bedtime routines even through the tantrum weeks. Our children have not ever slept in our bed (other than one or two really sick nights or bad nightmares, very special occasions).

Its doable...it just has to be what you're prioritizing. And I don't mean that as a dig towards other people with different high priorities. Just saying, as someone with similar priorities it can be done.[/quote]

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