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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is so bizarre, on both fronts.  When we have kids over to our house, I always ask their parents if there's anything special I should know (mostly allergy-related stuff, but others have offered up that their kids are picky).  I don't care or make any judgments about that.  I just want guests - including friends of my kids - to feel comfortable in my home.  I've had parents send gluten-free stuff w/ their kids, and that definitely didn't bother me.

When I send my kids to other people's homes, I tell them that they should do their best to eat what's offered (we have no food-related issues).

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This mostly describes my philosophy about a lot of things-- gift-giving, for example. I give and love to give gifts to kids (and adults), but I'd never be offended if someone didn't bring me or my kid a birthday gift. That sort of thing.

My one caveat is when I do something reasonable to accommodate pickiness or a preference (not a religious/dietary restriction) and I'm still made to feel I didn't do enough. Like when I ordered Peruvian chicken for everyone-- plain, not highly-seasoned, got things like fries and [i]plain[/i] rice in addition to yucca and salad with it. 8 and 9 year olds wouldn't eat it, scrunched up their nose, their dad semi-apologetically ran out and got plain pizza for them, and it's like... eh? Especially when we had them over again and I asked what the kids would like and he told me they like basic things, like rotisserie chicken. Uhhhhh...

I suspect his older kid is not NT (not addressed, but I get his being picky, if I don't excuse being rude), but his younger kid seems to just be along for the ride, not being highly picky, but knowing they can both basically demand anything they want. Obviously bigger issues going on there, but my point was that I go pretty well out of my way to serve what my guests would like BUT

1) It's true that I do as much as possible to make or buy one meal for everyone, not short order cook, and not one meal for adults and one for kids-- I just make a point to include lots of things that even picky kids would like, or at least serve something that comes in components that can be separated (unlike with the casserole/salad combo-- even though I don't think the actual food offered was so offensive-- just the OP's friend's attitude)

2) If you tell me "We eat anything!" or you say, "Oh, they like plain cheese pizza!" and then I make something not-too-exotic-at-all and no one eats anything, or I buy a pizza and it's "the wrong kind" or "they only eat the pizza their grandma makes" or something, well, then... [/quote]

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