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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every over-defensive, over emotional person defaults to "what if it's a bad daddy/bad relationship!"

What if it's a bad single mommy?

What if it's a bad idea for someone who is unable to form a stable relationship with another adult, have a child who is necessary captive to someone with severe intimacy problems?[/quote]

My point is that two parents should not be assumed to be better than one.

Adoptive parents are literally VETTED by professionals who make sure they are emotionally and physically healthy, can support the child financially, have legal guardianship setup if something happens to them, etc.  In MD their homes are inspected, they are drug-tested. So...one might argue that they are a SAFER bet than people whose sole qualification for being a parent was having unprotected sexual intercourse.[/quote]

Ha.  Yes, my sister, a biological mom, marveled how any yahoo can have a baby, but, as a single mom seeking to adopt, I had to give fingerprints multiple times, consent to background reports by the police , have 10 firemen - in their truck! - descend on my house to check how safe it was, give multiple references, provide financial and health reports, sit for several interviews, and fill out hundreds of forms until I was approved to adopt a child as a single woman.

I passed.  Over a decade later, we are very happy.  It was worth every form and firemen check![/quote]

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