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[quote=Anonymous]I was born in 1965 and my parents were born in 1935 and 1936.  THinking about it in retrospective, I think that many of the people from my generation were probably raised by people with pretty serious PTSD.  Our parents were children during WW II and our dads later fought in Vietnam and Korea, and honestly thinking about it now, I remember a lot of 'running and hiding' when Dad came home at night because he would be drunk and angry and abusive.  I remember knowing that we couldn't play at Billy's house because his dad was CRAZY when he got home from work, and just thinking it was normal that most people's dad's drank and screamed.  And we were middle-class!  I imagine it was even worse if you were poor.

I also remember thinking it was normal that it was our JOB not to "bother daddy."  None of us actually expected our fathers to play with us, or take an interest in us or our studies or our activities, what we wanted for Christmas, when it was our birthday.

I say all this not to suggest that this was good or healthy.  I think my dad deserves an F as a parent and my mom an F for enabling him.  Even now she will tell me that my kids don't respect me, whereas we were "terrified" of my dad when we were growing up.  Terrified is her word, and she thinks of this as a point of honor, like good parents raise kids who are terrified of their parents.  But I do find myself having some compassion for them.

Also, remember, if you were born in the 1960's it was before Roe v. Wade so a lot of people probably ended up with kids and husbands, unlike our generatin where at least we're allowed to choose.  I would imagine have a wanted marriage and wanted children probably makes a lot of things better.[/quote]

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