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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, let's focus on the school year, where you state that your nanny only cares for the 1 & 3 year old. They simply don't need spending money. If nanny wants to take them to a paid activity, she can ask specifically about that activity, and you can give the money. That's what I did when I was a nanny. There's no need for Starbucks, etc. She should be doing things like packing lunches before heading out to playgrounds and whatnot for the day.[/quote]

If you are ok with the type of nanny who would accept this sort of arrangement, go for it.  But most nannies I know wouldn’t accept this sort of micromanaging and constraints.  Either respect our judgment and give us the freedom to act or you might as well go daycare.[/quote]

The nanny is spending OP money on herself and claiming its a treat for the kids.  Starbucks is not a treat for a 1 and 3 year old and she should pack food except if they were out at some distance like a museum.  Older kids, yes but even so Starbucks is not a great choice for them, just her.  Parents should always know where their children are at all times.  These are their kids.  If nanny wants to spend her money at Starbucks on her time that's fine.  When she is with the kids, spending OP money she should be held accountable.  Any job that you are given money has accountability.[/quote]

Why would someone accept this work environment?  To be nickel and dimed and second guessed as to who ordered what and why we went to this place or that is no way to treat a professional.[/quote]

You clearly have no idea how most professionals are at work.  You pay and submit an expense report.  Or, you get a credit card but you pay and company reimburses you approved charges.  Each charge has to be approved.

Most employers have a budget.  OP is probably providing food for nanny and kids at home.  Most employers don't provide food or lunch.  OP should not have to pay starbucks or the panera poster pay $45 for a few kids and an adult - absurd.  [/quote]

It depends on the nature of the organization and where the person is in the pecking order.  If it is some nondescript business and/or the person is just a random, easily replaceable cog in the wheel, then sure every minor expense must be approved and scrutinized.  But if you are viewed as an important person in an elite institution, you should be given the discretion to operate (of course not completely with limits) as you see fit to move the organization forward in the right direction.

A proper nanny should be viewed as an instrumental part of the family and the children’s upbringing and parents should view themselves and their families as important enough “organizations” to provide and bring out the best for people who make the organization prosper.[/quote]

I can’t afford a Starbucks coffee every day, my job doesn’t pay for coffee, and I wouldn’t pay for my nanny to stop at Starbucks every day.  It’s ridiculous that the nanny is doing this when the op doesn’t want her to. The nanny can buy her own coffee if she wants it.[/quote]

Not everyone wants or can afford a certain type of nanny.  There are people on this board who think they can get a professional nanny for $20/hour and then expect her to do housework while the kids are asleep or at preschool like she is the maid.  Other people will defer to the nanny about taking kids to Starbucks on the way back to the park and aren’t going to sweat the nanny getting herself a coffee while there.

Obviously if the nanny get a a coffee on the way to work, that would be her expense, but to worry about what she gets while out with the kids is just gauche and petty.[/quote]

$20 an hour is a decent salary for a child care worker.  Its not unreasonable to help with housework if nanny is using the house.  Do you realize how much a coffee and lunch a day costs.  Professionals are responsible with company money and don't do what they want or buy themselves things without accountability. [/quote]

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