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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every time the OW is discussed on here, it's assumed that she's:  single, duped by her AP into believing he's unhappy at home when he's actually getting tons of sex, and pining/waiting to be with him long-term.

I wonder what percentage of affairs actually fit this description.  Certainly NONE of the ones I'm aware of, including my own.  Usually the OW is also married, indifferent to his home life, and wants to stay in her own marriage if only for her kids.[/quote]

I had about 15 affair partners in 5 years.  A little over half were married and had their own reasons for stepping out but all of them claimed to be in sexless marriages except one.  That one said her sex life was great, she just had a lot of resentment towards her DH so she did it out of spite I guess (I really didn't care why).  The not-married women really surprised me although those "relationships" were shorter, in general than the married women.   Surprised because I assumed no sigle woman wanted that kind of FWB relationship with a married man, but I was proven wrong.  Also, it was the single women who pursued me where I pursued all the married women.[/quote]

OMG, 15 AP’s?  I hope you’re not with your wife anymore.  If you are, are you still cheating?  Please do women a favor and don’t ever marry.  [/quote]

No longer married, don't plan to ever marry again.  I've been in a LTR now with one of my APs who ended her relationship years ago.

In affair land, the relationships are usually not that long because it's a very dynamic situation and people's needs change.  Some jump in and out of it.  Some find they aren't cut out for it.  My number also includes a number of ONSs.[/quote]

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