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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do NOT stand for that. It only gets worse. My STBXH showed signs of controlling behavior early and it got worse over time. Definitely push for counseling - you may need a third party to help you navigate this.[/quote]

OP:  thanks.  We are currently in couples counseling.  The thing is, when we get in front of the (male) therapist, DH somehow twists things around.  For example, he says that we "agreed" that I would not play chess with DC (I honestly don't remember this) and therefore I "lied" by telling DC that I would play with him.  It's crazy-making in front of the therapist and I almost feel like it's a useless session.  [/quote]

This is an huge, enormous, on-fire red flag. He has no interest in changing his behavior. I don't casually suggest this, but I'd strongly consider divorce. I mean, this is chess with a FIVE YEAR OLD. This is about as low stakes as it gets. And then threatening the kid with no chess with dad?

Just get away. Rebuild. Get into therapy and make the most of your relationship with your son.[/quote]

Agree with above poster.  The other enormous red flag is DH wanting to be copied on all Mom emails to you.[/quote]

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