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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=ZachF]BTDT and wish I had some advice for you.  I understand your pain and the hopeless feelings.  IN my case, she was also an alcoholic and that's how she self-medicated, while refusing to even consider any kind of prescription even see a doctor.  It did not end well but at least I got my kinds away from her.

Good luck to you.  You will get a lot of people telling you to just hang in there, don't abandon her, get her the help and magic pills she needs to bring her back to reality, but the reality is,[b] she needs to help herself and if she isn't willing, you really can't do much at all.  You need to get mentally healthy yourself and get your children away from that toxic environment.[/b][/quote]
I'm a woman, and I agree with this.[/quote]

I’m another woman who agrees. As someone who struggles with mental illness, it is on me to make sure that I’m getting the appropriate treatment and I’m on the appropriate medication that allows me to be a functioning and productive member of my family. Of course is wonderful if OP is supportive but to suggest this is all on him is ludicrous. If you have a disease you work to get help.[/quote]

+1[/quote]
I'm one of the PPs. This isn't that dissimilar to someone who is an alcoholic.  Of course, OP should help the spouse whenever possible. That's what marriage is about, but at some point, you have to think about the kids and yourself.  At some point, being around someone like this can be detrimental to the family.  And sometimes, the ill person might find it easier to get better when they have some space.

OP - why not talk to a therapist about it.[/quote]

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