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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My favorite are the ones who complain about how their husbands won’t stand up to their controlling and manipulative MILs with no self-awareness about why their husbands were attracted to them to begin with.[/quote]

Yes and no. In the vast majority of marriages that I know (extended family and close friends)- one partner or the other is more dominant. I don’t find this is gender biased either- more of a personality thing. I think problems arise when parents see that their “adult child” is the passive one in the marriage- and it makes them very nervous so they try to step in and “take back” some of that perceived control from the “outsider”.

I’m not talking abuse or manipulation either- I have just noticed that in many many marriages this is the pattern and both partners seem happy with the arrangement. I think people somehow pair off this way without consciously thinking of why or realizing it.[/quote]

ETA: my point being that MIL may have very well been in charge/more dominant in her own marriage. Not surprising that she will tangle with an adult child’s spouse who she perceives as dominant (while approving if it is her own adult child in that role) [/quote]

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