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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sound like my marriage, except we sleep in the same bed without touching.  It’s pretty insane.  Oh, and we spent so a family thing together on the weekends because his anxiety (which manifests as anger) makes him so miserable to be around.

Why do I stay?  Because our kid is 6 and DH is SO moody and so angry all the time that I can’t sentence my kid to 50% of his time outside school alone with someone who gives him the silent treatment or rages at him.  When he gets like that now, I try to clear us out of the house.

It’s miserable but I honestly don’t know what else I can do.  I lived with a raging, moody, unpredictable mother.  He was nothing like this when we dated.  But it’s been years now and has y gotten better.  I don’t want to live like this and I know it’s not good, but I feel like I’m choosing the least worst of two very bad options.   Has anyone else been in a similar situation?[/quote]

I am in this EXACT situation. Supposedly he got better after a medical diagnosis and got treatment. We them had a second thinking he was better but about a year later, after new baby, same raging and anger. Oldest is 7, youngest is 3 and he really has no patience for youngest. I dread leaving children with him for long periods of time. Instead when needed, I send them on errands because he won’t be mean in public. He’s not always awful. Sometimes he can be great with the kids but you never know when or what will set him off.

He reached a new low two days ago. He three a ball at me in anger and it hit me on the head. I froze and after I yelled at him he said he would do it again. He was angry over a simple discussion. He just switched from normal concession about paint to super angry.

I screamed at him and took the kids upstairs and went straight to bed. Slept with my older child. Next morning went to police station to report it and it was a waste of time becoming I appeared “fine.”  Plus, I can’t trigger the whole Protective order thing until I am ready to leave him and I am not because I dread my children alone with him. So I am stuck like you. I’m sorry you are also in this situation. It is torture. Hang in there. Eventually our kids will be old enough to hopefully have the courts listen to their wishes and have them stay with us 100% of the time.[/quote]

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