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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I have found that as my mother and MIL have aged (now in their eighties), that they have much less of a filter. Their deeply-held beliefs and opinions are voiced more often even when there are people present who could be offended. You are correct to think that she has probably always felt this way about you working. I think you responded appropriately. [/quote]

No, I don't think that you can assume that she has always felt this way towards Op.  It is just the topic of the week.  She could have seen something on t.v. that inspired those comments for all you know.

Just this past week my mom announced that she doesn't like ham.  Well, I guess that means that we won't be having ham at our holiday meals now.  Good to know!

She hasn't always disliked ham but her tastes have changed.  [/quote]

Yet OP’s MIL only backtracked a teeny bit  so she didn’t happen to forget momentarily that her DIL worked and apologize for her gaffe. This is not about something minor like a change in taste for a food item. [/quote]

The ham is just an example of how older people's views can change over time.  We've had ham on certain holidays ever since I was a kid and now suddenly my mom dislikes ham. If I had reacted to my Mom's statement "I don't like ham" by getting up and acting irritated I'm sure that she would have "backtracked", too.  She wasn't intentionally trying to annoy me with her statement.  It just sort of slipped out and she surprised me with it.

Every now and then she'll see something hyped up on t.v. that "ALL" the teens are doing and she'll warn me "Make sure they aren't vaping" or doing some type of drug. If I chose to take that as an insult - "Wow.  You must not think too much of my parenting!" , I would be miserable.  That isn't what she was saying at all.  But it's also not something she would have just randomly said only 10 years ago.
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