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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my parents' condo complex I can think of at least 3 family groups where the parent/s and at least one child live in the same building or adjacent building.  These are people I only know from happenstance, like we meet in the elevator, so I can imagine that the actual percentage is pretty high.  There also are a lot of siblings who live in adjacent condos.  To my knowledge there also area  lot of arrangements where a parent and child are sharing a condo.

[b]I think this works for people who have good relationships.  They may not be perfect relationships but the people tolerate each others' idiosyncrasies and give each other the latitude to be a little weird (because, frankly, we're all a little weird).  The poster who keeps saying it is[b] "unhealthy" obviously has some mental health issues herself so it would not be a good arrangement for her.  [/b]
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I would do it, OP.  My FIL lives with us and it has been a wonderful experience.[/quote]

I agree with all of this. OP sounds like she has a good understanding of the family dynamic. I think it could make her life a lot easier.[/quote]

It's easy to judge when you haven't experienced what dementia does to some people. May you never have to experience the all out abuse a senior with a horrid form of dementia who used to be kind can dole out to those there for her most. Of course if you did experience it my guess it you would not be so quick to label the victim as having mental health issues. Karma is a bitch.[/quote]. Well I work in memory care as well  and I think your idea that it's "unhealthy" to not outsource care is a little ridiculous. 70% of those with dementia reside at home. We need better community supports for caregivers but the idea that family shouldn't be in the same building without being unhealthy is insane. It's also culturally biased bc it's only that way here!  And with the silver tsunami nor whatever buzz word they call it, coming intergenerational living is going to just become a reality of American culture for a HUGE segment of the population that can't afford other options[/quote]

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