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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again.  Also, things just get extra crazy when DH comes home. For various reasons.

He usually is short on patience already from his work day, and often has to finish work a bit.  Kids are exhausted by end of day, they are trying to get DH's attention in whatever way because they haven't seen him all day, whether positive or negative, and get upset if he's not paying attention.  Also DH is the wild fun friend who has a natural talent of bringing out the pent up crazy in kids and part of his routine is to roughhouse with them because it helps him get his frustrations from the day out as well.  He also gets a little upset if the kids don't give him a big warm welcome or get excited about him coming home, which I understand, but at the same time, sometimes the kids are just exhausted or distracted.  Also kids get extra punchy and borderline rude when their friends are over - especially to DH - it's like they are showing off that they can be rude to their dad for laughs.

So when DH gets home, I feed him and ask him about his day, remind the kids to be respectful to their dad or stop harassing him while he is trying to get his work done.  For me, while I'm at my max, it's just extra stuff on my plate I have to manage, and I am not good at managing multiple things at a time.  
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I am basing this off a recent conversation with my husband...
He probably doesn’t see himself in this way, OP.  
In his mind, he runs out of the office to get home early in order to play with the kids and give you a break while you fix dinner.   Then he usually has some work to catch up on before you all eat (and you get to see him being the important whatever he is).  After that, he feels like super-dad/husband/employee successfully multitasking all three.

Now, you have just told him that not only is he not helpful, not only do you not find the work from home attractive, he is actually stressing you out more.   And his super-dad routine that he is so proud of requires you to set up exact conditions for it to be executed.  [/quote]

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