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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s probably her favorite statue now. Let it go for now and someday it may find its way to you. [/quote]

PP here.  This is what I was thinking.  Spiteful.[/quote]

I'd be tempted to tell her to shove that statue where the sun don't shine.  Triple eff you Sister![/quote]

Thing is, now the greedy sister beg/borrowed/stole/sold/trashed/gave away/discarded/kept, etc. the belongings that OP wants - so those items have brought and will bring bad luck to the greedy sister.  Sucks to be her![/quote]

This is one of those things where the people actually doing the work get to decide whether or not they're going to go through any trouble sorting out stuff for an absentee sibling.  Going through a house and paring down a houseful of a belongings is a ton  of work  Getting the job done is a priority, choosing some items to take home with them is a reward they get in doing all of that work and setting something aside/mailing items to an absentee sibling would be very, very low on the priority list.  I totally get that.  And that is why I didn't issue any requests like that from afar.  My mom was there and she set aside a couple of things for me. My siblings got a fair amount more than I did but they are the ones that helped out so that seems fair to me.

In Op's case she asked for only one item and it does seem rather insensitive of her sibling to not have found a way to get that item to Op.  But, as others have pointed out - it could still be packed away, it could be $$$$ to mail it, it may have broken when they were moving it.  Who knows?[/quote]

OP only asked for one item.  You don't get to designate OP persona non grata, just because OP has a job and a family to care for.

Usually when I hear this type of case from those I know in family law, there is something fishy about the executor, and the executor is trying to settle their own score, which has nothing to do with what the parent/s really wanted, or what the parent/s really thought.  Sounds to me like the executor might have been self designated, possibly a martyr, and if the parent/s wanted to live in peace, they didn't fight that, or there would be hell to pay during the parent/s' last few years on this earth.

OP knows the truth, and I would bet more people know the truth than the shifty executor (which is the type of thing I hear about from those who see it often enough).  It is the n'er do well sibling that puts them in the "receiving" position.  I choose to believe my friends that work in this area, and I choose to believe OP, not PP with a score to settle. [/quote]

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