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[quote=Anonymous]	The cop may be county or state or maybe even federal mandated, kind of like Braille on a drive-through. Your wife, nor do the other adults have any control over that.

Onto you, if you don't want to or can't drive your kid to school, then don't.  It is perfectly acceptable to say "I need to be at work" and then be at work. Leave the house if you need to, as unfair as that may seem. I do better when my husband is not at the house when he's working. When he was working from home, I often couldn't tell when he was working v. when I could tell him something "Hey, look at this video" "Want to hear a joke" "What did you think of that last chapter of the book you were reading" from "I'm coming upstairs to go potty and then I truly do need to get downstairs". 
If you need to be at work, then go to work, literally. Starbucks counts as "going to work".

When you complain, are you grumpy? Nothing kills my sympathy more then a grumpy husband. Talking about what you experienced as a kid is fine, talking about what you wish is fine, being a grump is not.  I've noticed tv shows often show the grumpy husband coming home and his loving wife waiting with sympathy, but that's like romance novels where the rich boyfriend never seems to be at the office. It doesn't work that way.

Finally, don't compare your experience with the city bus to the school-bus. You had much more freedom with a city bus then you do with a school-bus. I'm also not sure how the school-bus teaches resiliency. The school-bus is like being on a commercial airplane, you go where it goes, you deal with the people around you, and if you miss the bus coming or going, someone has to rescue you. 
I'd think about if resilience is what you want to teach, and if so better ways to teach it.  I'd also leave your wife's treatment of you out of how you treat your kids.  That seems to be what is bothering you, your wife is loving to your kids while being dismissive of you. I'd address that head-on and leave the kids out of it. Your point that she is loving to the kids proves she is capable of being loving, and that you'd like some of that loving directed at you is worth discussing with her.       
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