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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am with OP. That is a lot. Like it or not any visitor throws off a schedule a bit or makes you act a little differently in your own home. I like to eat ice cream in my robe and watch Schitts Creek one night a week in the family room while DH plays tennis. But if my IL were visiting i couldn't do that. Or some nights i crash after the kids go to bed. I wouldn't feel right 'ditching' them at 8pm. 
It is just too much. For some not to see that is baffling.[/quote]

That's on you. I say goodnight after the kids are in bed (8:30) and read or watch TV on my iPad in my bedroom. On the first night, I chat for about an hour first. After that, I've seen them a lot during the day, so I don't also need to give them my full evening. If something is "just too much," change what you're doing, dum-dum! [/quote]

Why is it not acceptable for the change that OP makes to restrict her in-laws staying over for days at a time whenever they want? [/quote]

I say that's fine! She needs to work that out with DH.

In the meantime, YOU can stop whining about Schitt's Creek and go watch it.[/quote]

I wasn't the one whining about Schitt's Creek. I'm happy to watch it wherever in my house. I do think it is completely reasonable for OP to not want to have non-nuclear family members staying with her. I do think it is completely reasonable for her to want to be able to use her own living room to relax without her MIL sitting there making conversation. You really make it sound like the OP should just accommodate these relatives who come whenever they want, stay as long as is convenient for them (e.g., leave Saturday so that they can go to church), and are territorial about OP's family (e.g., are upset that OP and fam saw her pareants for Thanksgiving and insisted on coming over before they were even unpacked from that trip when I think everyone knows there will be some winter recital or sports event sometime in the next week and a half they could attend). [/quote]

Nope. I didn't say anything about the OP. I directly replied to a poster who complained that wah-wah, I can't do my routine when they visit, blah blah. YES, YOU CAN. Stand up, walk out of the room, go watch your show. Problem solved. [/quote]

If the routine involves watching Schitt's Creek in the family room, then OP is entitled to do that.  It is completely reasonable for OP to not want to have non-nuclear family members staying with her and occupying common living areas with such frequency. It it is completely reasonable for her to want to be able to use her[b] own living room[/b] to relax without her MIL being in the house at all.[/quote]

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