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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.[/quote]

Neither should be "accommodated."  [/quote]

So people with a terminally ill parent should just not make a living anymore????[/quote]

Most elderly care is not for terminal people and then you bring in hospice and other supports.  This has nothing to do with employment.  [/quote]

That's not how reality works for many of us.  I'm glad you can do it, but for me, elderly care took a toll on my career and hospice could only do so much.  What do you do when it's not within 6 months of death, but the condition is still serious.  [/quote]

I did 24/7 care for about a year then nursing home and was still there frequently and managing everything.  It was a ton of work but it doesn't have to do with employment. You do it nights/weekends/hire a caregiver/nursing home.  You make it work.  We did it for years.[/quote]

No.  I couldn't do 24/7 care like that.  I love my parents but my own health, husband and kids are my priority.  This idea that we somehow owe it to our parents to destroy the quality of our own lives in order to make their final years comfortable is just...so very wrong.  I would never expect my children to forgo their own happiness and independence like that.

As a parent, I owe it to my kids to give them the best start in life that I know how to give them.  That is my job.  I hope they will visit me but I do not want them to feel obligated to take care of me.

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Then, why are you even commenting on this topic?  Not all of us have the option NOT to care for family members in our home.  My family member (well, my husband's technically) had no money and no place to live.  The only option was us until we could get medicaid to pay for a nursing home.  I teach my kids we take care of family and they are equally important.[/quote]

NP.  Trouble is times have changed.  In the past when women didn't work they could probably shoulder more of the work for eldercare however times have changed.  People are working, they are having kids later and I'm not sure family will have the finances, time and energy for all of it.

I think people will have to start planning for their elder years.  Nursing homes will get stretched to capacity.  There is a ton of support for women when they have a baby, maternity leave, mothers groups etc but not much for elder care.  You are expected to work and do everything with little support.  Whilst taking care of family is important sometimes the care expected is unrealistic.

With ageing populations all over the world increasing governments are going to have increase support for families.[/quote]

What is your point?  You are offering nothing relevant to the discussion.  People do plan but those with low income cannot often save.[/quote]

My point is that government will have to help out more in coming years - we haven't even hit crisis level of an ageing population yet.  Yikes, I will leave the discussion then if I have nothing left to offer.

So many people on these forums are nasty.  Your right why do I bother, what a waste of my time.  You can continue on your own, what point do you have to make other than people can't save, that's it is it, ok I got a lot from that as well.  Thanks for a nothing discussion.[/quote]

They are not going to help out more.  Keep dreaming.  It took me a year to get into a medicaid nursing home bed and approved for medicaid.  It was not an easy process at all.  Its impossible for someone on a lower income to save for years of care.  If we could have paid for a few months of nursing care, it would have sped up the process but we couldn't afford it.[/quote]

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