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[quote=Anonymous][b] Some of you are suggesting that she keep her kids away from him or keep them from the wedding, but you're forgetting that OP has already stated that her kids LOVE him, which suggests he's certainly not someone new to them.[/b]

If that's the case, I don't understand why you're judging this man on his past,  OP?  Should we judge you on every mistake or indiscretion that you've made in your past too?

You're all acting like this was first degree murder, which is PREMEDITATED... it was not. 
He didn't methodically plan this murder & then time it right to bring it to fruition.

This seems more like a case of self defense.

Yes, he killed someone, but if the same fight were to occur today in the year 2019 that resulted in the same death, this man would NOT have been convicted of murder (which is why he was released).

Can people not change for the better in your eyes? Did he not serve his debt to society?

Have you never heard the proverb "to be human is to err"?   Translated that means "to be human is to forgive".

You said like him & he's nice and your kids LOVE him, and yet you're judging him today in the year 2019 for something he did long before meeting you?  That doesn't seem fair at all.

If he makes your mom happy & she's a mentally healthy, sane, rational, functioning adult, who knows the difference between love & abuse (and according to your own words, you haven't seen any signs of abuse or that he treats her badly) then for the love of God, why on earth is this any of your business?

Your mom is happy and she's getting married, you should be excited that she'd found someone to love and take care of her and won't be lonely in her old age -- and yet here you are making it all about you.

Can't you just let your mom be happy & allow other people to grow & learn from their mistakes, without feeling the need to judge them for the rest of their lives?

Or, lose your mom's love and trust by digging your heels in -- up to you.

When it comes down to it, it's your choice alone how you want to proceed, as it sounds like you and you alone are the only one that's hanging onto this drama... but I'd be very careful about insulting your mom, because this comes across that you dont trust her good judgement.

That being said, I'm not at all surprised that she hasn't wanted to speak to you in months.
I can't say I would either.[/quote]

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