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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I went back to full time work this year, kids are 11 and 9. I didn’t need to financially, just thought it would Be nice to have something for myself, have something to do other than volunteer, exercise and watch tv. I worked part time previously and thought it made sense to go back to full time work

Here’s what happened. Work sucks. My co workers are lame, there is no flexibility. I am punishing myself with this stupid job for no reason. Almost a year in and I’m counting the days until I can quit. Literally.

Maybe there is some magic job out there where it’s more value add than value take, but this one isn’t it. [/quote]

This is what the worry about. Work has always sucked ime[/quote]

+1, that's how I remember it which is why I'm in no hurry to go back.[/quote]

The thing is if you stay in the workforce you EARN flexibility, you build up vacation time, you work your way up and have work to do that you enjoy (whatever that means to you...the substance of the work, more or less responsibility, etc.), you build relationships and gravitate to co-workers you enjoy, you contribute something of value and are seen as someone who brings value which circles back to earning flexibility.

[b]But no, you're not going to come back to the workforce after 5-10+ years out and step into a great situation.  Which is why I'd think twice about quitting in the first place.[/b]

I think it's short sighted[/quote]

Ding ding ding[/quote]

Well, duh.  I'm not sure how that's a newsflash to anyone.  It's the same story for the women who Mommy (or Daddy) track themselves and switch around jobs a lot, isn't it?  The difference is that if you have more recent work experience you can always ratchet up your game once the demands at home lighten up.  If you have been completely out of the workforce for 10 years you are looking at basically starting over career wise.  Your skills need updating, you have no recent work history, you need to take whatever you can get and be grateful to get it.[/quote]

And if you start over, you will also be surrounded by co-workers who are often not your peer group age wise and you have nothing in common with.  Which sucks.[/quote]

I was the whipper snapper sitting in the board room when I did work.  I think I could manage.[/quote]

Ok.  Two completely different situations.  I'm sure it felt great to be young and seen as an up and comer and given responsibility.  It's going to feel a lot different when you're 45 doing the same work as 25 year olds who are talking about happy hour after work.[/quote]

Yes.  That is the risk you take.  If it doesn't work out it can be really hard.  It is important to see the forest for the trees and not put yourself in a terrible position.[/quote]

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