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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mentioned this in another thread, it is off the charts with my mom, especially during the last year, and it has been MOD for FIL for decades now, but not sure that is elderly, he is now elderly so it is even worse! Imagine a guy who has to have everything his way or he throws a tantrum, since he was 50, when I met him basically. He is unbearable, he will come in to see and and yell that he has to eat now and where, and let's go! I mean, he just drove here, why didn't he eat? My mom acted like a douche toddler during her last visit here. "I need watermelon and I need it now." "Mom, there is watermelon in the fridge." "But, it is almost gone and you need to go and buy it right away." Or, "it is clear that you are raising my blood sugar and wishing me to die, since you didn't buy any blueberries."[/quote]

Sounds terrible.  I wonder if there are underlying mental health issues apart from being elderly?  I only ask because my elderly parents and in-laws are pleasant people who really don't ask us to do anything, and are pretty self-aware.  [/quote]
Thank you for your reply. You sound very kind. My dad was never like this. Nor was my MIL, she died at 49, a year after I met her.... makes you wonder. I can't imagine that she would become as bad as this. My mom was recently widowed, so I tried to excuse it and get along during her last visit. I think both my mom and FIL are depressed and angry people, in general, mom had explosive episodes when sister and I were kids. I do think there is the truth to your words, my maternal grandpa was abusive and an alcoholic, my FIL's mom died when he was young, then his stepmom died youngish too, and rather than become aware of how hard women's lives were and are, he became misogynist. He actually took his son in laws side when his own daughter decided to separate. He was diagnosed with depression by his dr and refused meds, because in his own words "it is my turn to have people put up with me...." My dad was that perfect dad and grandpa that listens, sits with kids without judgement, and took grand kids for ice cream and sport's practices and...I miss him so much! He passed away a year and a half ago. Even being in intensive care and with some dementia he would always say about my dd, then 17, "nobody bother my princess." Thank you for even replying, sometimes I feel like I am not allowed to mention my dad to my mom, lest it takes away the attention from her.[/quote]

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