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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kinky people have always existed. Until very recently in the US, it was not discussed openly.

DH and I are kinky. I’m a female submissive masochist. I introduced him to BDSM. We’re also fine, upstanding citizens. Taxpayers. Civil servants. Active in church and neighborhood associations.

I think far more people want to practice long-term monogamy than will ever admit it. Most are probably short-term serial monogamists at heart. Others probably fit into some type of polyamory. U.S. society is not set up to support long-term triads/thrupples or other group relationships. But there are many partnered people practicing some form of non-monogamy, sometimes ethically, sometimes not. DH and are monogamous, but we know a couple people who are not. Interestingly, our kink social circle is almost exclusively monogamous couples. I think the swinger circles here must not overlap much with the kinky ones. Or the local swingers are very vanilla.

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I've noticed that people who are into more extreme kinks or consider themselves non-monogamous often greatly exaggerate how common or how many people are like them. It's because people want to see more people like them and not to accept how unusual they are.

I've been around life long enough to notice that there is a very large overlap between emotionally unstable and messy lives and non-monogamy and extreme bedroom activities. I'm not saying this applies to everyone but there's a clear pattern involved. [/quote]

Most of us have been around life long enough to notice the large overlap between people who make blanket statements about the sex lives of others and those who haven’t had a good orgasm in years, possibly ever.[/quote]

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