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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Man here, very high drive but I don't have sex with my wife.  It's been 3 months, and it's not worth making a move because it will either be rejected or she will agree and be annoyed.  Interestingly, after a while I really don't see her as sexual now although I can see her as attractive in a platonic way.

I am sure her lack of interest is a good combination of boredom and resentment but I don't take it personally.  I get lots of attention from other women.

For now, I stay but in a few years [b]when last kid is gone, I will leave[/b].[/quote]

Not to hijack the thread but this will not be easy on your kids even then. [/quote]

NP here. I often wonder if they feared “impact on the kids” thing is really case by case. I remember when I was a teenager my parents would fight and yell. My mother was controlling and hurtful and my father a difficult personality. I started to wish they’d divorce. I think if they did they would have thrived as people. [/quote]

I so often hear that the wives are surprised when husbands want to divorce after kids leave home.  This tells me that there's a communication issue here.  Why not communicate to your wife in a way she understands how important sex is for you.  You also need to clear on what you want out of sex life because it can't be like New relationship sex.

Many women don't know how important sex is for men and so don't let her be surprised if you ask her for divorce.  That's on you if that happens.

Also, you'll have to work towards making sex happen the st you want it and sex therapist might be helpful.

You sound like you are somewhat aware of what can cause these issues and so also make yourself aware of communication issues as well.[/quote]

Actually wives initiate divorce much more often.

Many men don't realize how important communication is, or being a equal partner in terms of the kids and household chores. They shouldn't be surprised if the DW asks for a divorce. Especially if they haven't made strikes in those areas, or cheated in the past.

Men need to value the more important aspects of the marriage. Over prioritizing sex to the point they disregard more important issues is what leads to a lot of divorces. When a pp says they can just find a AP I already assume they've already cheated. Probably another reason why the sex has stopped or diminished.

Many women divorce after the kids are gone because they are tired of the man child who won't ever grow up. If counseling or therapy won't work then it's probably best to get divorced.

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