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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think what's frustrating is that she treats both you and your parents like distant acquaintances. That's hard to take, but without knowing the whole backstory of your relationship, it's impossible to know what started it or whose fault it is. What's important to recognize is that the relationship is distant, and you need to adjust your expectations, and so should your parents.

The only other thing I can think of is that your sister was shaken by the health scare and instead of confronting it, chooses to keep her head in the sand. By staying away, she can pretend that nothing scary happened and life is same as always and your parents will be around forever. But it sounds like she's been like this even before the scare, and she just doesn't care. At this point, it really may not matter too much to her whether your father lives or dies. Now, why would that be?[/quote]

Yeah, this predates the health scare. She's been distant with us for years. I guess my issue is more that I expected she might change, but she just hasn't.

If I've done something to upset her, I wish she would tell me. [/quote]

I'm sorry, this seems like a situation that is hurtful to you. But she's been distant for years! What made you think she would change? Did you have some kind of heart to hear during the health scare where she said she wanted things to change? Did she open up to you? Adults rarely change family dynamics drastically after many years.

Next year, don't invite her to the holidays at all.[/quote]

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