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[quote=Anonymous]You have to look at your own personality and desires. Everyone is different. As a kid I moved around a lot , lost a number of family members to death; I longed for stability later in life.

I had many opportunities to travel, party, and live three different lifetimes before age 30. Didn’t have my first kid until 30 and now about to have my 4th. These have been some of the best years of my life (building the family). Everything else, for me, was fleeting and temporary.

While the road hasn’t been always easy or picture perfect (former spouse with mental health issues, finances, etc), I wouldn’t change a thing about having children at an older age if you are able. While outsiders may judge by your circumstances or perceived future financial status, great parenting will shine through the fog. No one can predict the future.

I’ve been blessed with olders who have emerged to be very caring and compassionate young people. They fascinate me with their resilience and motivation to seek knowledge. While they are not the valedictorian high academic performance  type, they are consistently on grade level and are generally seen as solid kids by their teachers and peers.

My younger and soon to be here infant have a ten year age gap from their older siblings. I find that it has provided an opportunity for them to become nurturers, learn and see childcare modeled, and also has reinforced the concept of reciprocity/responsibility for others. My patience has grown dramatically since my first round of siblings and the youngers also get the benefit of that experience.

But one must audit what is important to them. For me, I hope to grow older with a ton of family around to share moments and silly pictures etc. Not everyone wants that though.

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